A Nigerian Lady identified as That girl on X has stirred reactions online after revealing why she ended her engagement just three months before her scheduled wedding.
Narrating her ordeal, That girl lady explained that the decision emerged from a conversation she had with her fiancé about how responsibilities would be shared after marriage.
According to her, the discussion took another dimension when her fiancé stated that he did not believe in doing household chores.
She wrote:
“I left my fiancé three months before our wedding because of one conversation.
We were discussing how we’d share responsibilities after marriage when he casually said, “I don’t do chores. Cooking, cleaning, laundry… those are for women.”
She further explained that when she asked whether he expected her to handle all domestic responsibilities even if they were both working full-time. Rather, he maintained that household chores were the responsibility of women while describing his own responsibilities as “Providing leadership.” After he was asked what his responsibilities would after the wedding.
She added:
“I asked if he wanted a stay-at-home wife then.
He said no.
He wanted a woman with a full-time job who would contribute financially, split bills when necessary, help raise the kids, and still handle all the cooking, cleaning, and household work because
that’s how it’s supposed to be.”
I asked him what exactly his own responsibilities would be.
His answer?
“Providing leadership.”
The break up and social media reactions
However, the exchange prompted her to review their compatibility and future together. Then realized they held fundamentally different beliefs regarding partnership, mutual support, and shared responsibilities in marriage which leads to the engagement being called off.
The disclosure has since triggered reactions on social media, with many users debating traditional gender roles. While noting expectations in marriage, and the importance of discussing such issues before tying the knot.
Meanwhile some commenters supported her decision, arguing that shared responsibilities are essential in modern relationships.
A user commented:
‘Thank you for sharing this. It’s so important to recognize that true partnership means sharing all aspects of life; emotional, financial, and yes, household responsibilities. No one should feel like they’re signing up to be an unpaid employee in their own marriage. Your decision shows strength and self-respect. The right person will value teamwork and equality, not outdated roles. Wishing you all the best on your journey to finding a genuine partnership.”
Another added:
“Canceling the wedding is a good brianer.. because marriage is for two taking the small responsibility but not the way of leading were you should be the servant instead”
The story has since reignited discussions about communication, compatibility, and the role of expectations in building successful marriages.
By Musekir Faisat Omolara
